“how could he/she do such a thing? Is she out of her mind? That’s just completely wrong. Some people have no sense of shame anymore”
Its Amazing. A lot of us are quick to make conclusions about others and what we see of their actions and behaviors. We forget that we all have different experiences and struggles that affect the way we are.
As Muslims we are obliged to make excuses for one another and this is to prevent ourselves from forming negative thoughts of each other. Most of the time, the reality is far off from what we may think and once we have made our conclusions, we have blocked the chances of seeing other reasons or excuses for the situation.
This is usually unhealthy for our relationships with others, (friends, family, spouses, neighbors, colleagues etc). People would always do things that we would not always understand. But before we jump to conclusions, hold a grudge or get angry, let us ask ourselves “do I know the full story?” “might there be another side of this story”. And the answer would most likely be “No” and “Yes”.
So, let us form the habit of making excuses in our heads and know that even at that we cannot always find all the possible excuses and there is still room for that which we have not thought of. And lastly, let us look to every situation with compassion, that way even when the person is truly justifiably wrong, then our aim is to help them, correct them and make them better, rather than push them further down the drain.
"Train your minds to harbour only the best thoughts of others.."
Stay Blessed, TIW
Its Amazing. A lot of us are quick to make conclusions about others and what we see of their actions and behaviors. We forget that we all have different experiences and struggles that affect the way we are.
As Muslims we are obliged to make excuses for one another and this is to prevent ourselves from forming negative thoughts of each other. Most of the time, the reality is far off from what we may think and once we have made our conclusions, we have blocked the chances of seeing other reasons or excuses for the situation.
This is usually unhealthy for our relationships with others, (friends, family, spouses, neighbors, colleagues etc). People would always do things that we would not always understand. But before we jump to conclusions, hold a grudge or get angry, let us ask ourselves “do I know the full story?” “might there be another side of this story”. And the answer would most likely be “No” and “Yes”.
So, let us form the habit of making excuses in our heads and know that even at that we cannot always find all the possible excuses and there is still room for that which we have not thought of. And lastly, let us look to every situation with compassion, that way even when the person is truly justifiably wrong, then our aim is to help them, correct them and make them better, rather than push them further down the drain.
"Train your minds to harbour only the best thoughts of others.."
Stay Blessed, TIW